He + She: Marriage and Men

Sunday, 3/14/2010
Pastor Lucas Forsthoff

Marriage and Men
Marriage and Men
1 Peter 3:7
1 Peter 3:7 Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.
Men are leaders of the family. God made man first and he is created to be the leader.
When Satan tempted Eve, Adam was right there beside her and watched everything unfold. The man is the head, which does not mean he is better, but he is responsible for the sin of Eve.
1. Chauvinism
a. No sissy stuff Sam
i. This type of man doesn’t know how to be a man he just knows that he doesn’t want to be like a women.
ii. Women hug so he doesn’t
iii. Women kiss their kids so he doesn’t
iv. The type of men punch, farts, burp, curse, and yell the loudest.
b. Success and status Stewart
i. Here is how much I make, here is my car, here is my check, this is what I got,
ii. His wife is just another notch on the belt
c. Give ‘em all you got Hank
i. He is scary, intimidating, and angry.
ii. He will as quickly punch you as yell at you
d. I’m the boss Bob
i. He is the boss everywhere
ii. Tells everyone what to do
iii. Barks out orders to his wife and kids
iv. Bosses his boss around
v. Overbearing
vi. Leave the church because the pastor rebuked them
2. Cowardice
a. Little boy Larry
i. Sweet heart
ii. Can’t keep job, forgets to set his alarm
iii. Works part time because it stresses him out
iv. Mom still helps you out with laundry, bills, and food
v. Get away with murder because he is so nice
vi. Wants to meet a nice gal with a good job and a house
vii. Stay at home dad
viii. Likes kids because he is one
b. Sturdy oak Owen
i. Works, pay bills, comes home, and checks out
ii. Emotionally absent
iii. Always everywhere the kids are not
iv. Never say, “I love you.”
v. Doesn’t understand that he wasn’t a good dad
c. Hyper spiritual Henry
i. Everything is spiritual and about God
ii. Always into the next big thing…which is scary
d. Good time Gary
i. Life of the party
ii. Funny
iii. Charming
iv. Entertaining
v. Everyone loves him but nobody respects him
vi. He doesn’t just tell jokes, he is one
vii. Can’t finish anything
Key to masculinity (a look at Jesus)
Take responsibility for…
a. Your home
b. Church
c. Job
d. City
e. Family
f. Others

1 Peter 3:7 In an understanding way, show honor
1. Honor her martially
a. Men need to look for a wife, not a girlfriend
b. Eph 5:25 husbands are to love your wives as Christ loved the church, he laid down his life for the church.
c. Do not have wandering eyes
d. Do not flirt all the time
e. Women statistically go into poverty upon divorce
2. Honor her physically
a. She is weaker physically than you
3. Honor her emotionally
a. A wife needs intimacy
b. Passion
c. She wants to know you
4. Honor her verbally
a. Make sure your tongue is uplifting your wife
b. Cherish your wife when she is absent
c. Turn your wife into a princess when you are talking to other people
5. Honor her financially
a. 1 Timothy 5:8 If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.
b. Provide for your family
c. Do not give you curse to your wife
d. You might say, well this is the 21st century times are different now. Look at the way things are…we need to keep our biblical standards for marriage.
6. Honor her Practically
a. Everything is broken around the house
b. Cars won’t start properly
c. House is not clean
d. There is no budget
7. Honor her Parentally
a. Men, your wife wants you to love the kids, help raise them, gone on dates with the girls, pray with them
b. Stats say that a wife is very forgiving if the husband puts forth an effort in loving the kids and parenting them.
8. Honor her Spiritually
a. 11 million more Christian women than men.
b. Lead spiritually